Holistic sex and relationship coach Kim Anami recently joined hosts Joel Rafidi and Yerasimos Stilianessis on their recent Here for the Truth podcast to talk about her philosophies on intimacy and connection. Anami began by explaining how misconceptions around sex have come to impact people’s relationships and self-image.
“I became the best version of myself after having these cataclysmic sexual encounters, where all of my conditioning and layers of programming would fall the way,” Kim Anami said, explaining that the taboos around sex have made it difficult for people to connect with their sexual energy. She spoke about how her experiences with sex made her realize how empowering it can be and added she aims to remove false ideas around sex to help people reprogram themselves in a way that uses sex as a vector for growth.
Contrary to what conventional doctors may say, kim Anami believes all people are capable of explosive and enjoyable sex. “All they need are the right tools, or to remove these layers of lies that have been put upon them, and then reveal what’s really underneath, which is this innate power that we all have,” she said.
The hosts spoke with Anami about how practices like circumcision can have a big effect on how men approach sex and intimacy. Anami said it’s one of a host of traumas that can make men shy away from sexual vulnerability. She said learning how to heal helps people reclaim their sexual energy. “If people can clear that with their sexuality, it gives them, I would say, so much more immediate access to divine guidance, their inner truth and the truth of what they observe in the world around them.”
For Anami, recognizing how trauma influences people sexually is an important part of moving forward. “Every single person has this ability to be incredibly, beautifully, sexually expressed, but it’s all of the conditioning that’s been put on top of them,” she said. Anami told the hosts how she’s seen positive sexual energy translate into positive changes in people’s personal lives. “They’re showing up in the world and giving their true gifts to the world. And of course, the universe just rewards that and sends it back to them in abundance,” she said.
Other topics ranged from porn to blockages between partners and the role of gender in sexual relations. Anami spoke about how people often enter into polygamous sexual relationships because they don’t know how to work through hurdles as a couple that are detrimental to their sex lives. “Every single couple I’ve talked to, there was always a moment like that, where they got stuck. And instead of diving deeper into that work, they opened up their relationship,” Anami said. “If you’re both growing and evolving, you’re becoming different people all the time, so you’re actually having sex with different versions of each other all the time.”
Anami wrapped up her time on the podcast by talking about her journey to becoming a sex and relationship coach, which started with her realizing that sex was one of the most powerful forces out there. “Sex was one of those things [where] I would have sex and feel like I had taken drugs. Like I had taken ecstasy, like I had had these total changes in my consciousness,” she said. “I’m like, you don’t need anything external, you can get it from within.”
Anami has made a splash with her #thingsiliftwithmyvagina campaign, where she travels around the world and lifts different items with her genitals. Her courses include Coming Together Couples Salon, The Well-F–ked Woman, Sexual Mastery for Men, and Sexy Mama Salon. Her Vaginal Kung Fu class is an eight-week virtual salon to “strengthen and tone the vagina” for better orgasms. The salon includes lessons on vaginal strengthening, ejaculation, and orgasms.
“This is the energy that creates new life,” she said. “We can be taking that energy and consciously using it, generating power with it, and then infusing that into everything that we do, where we are creating our own reality with this energy. It’s the ultimate free energy source.”